You might have expected it and you might thought this relationship will last forever, but sadly, it ended.Don’t give up yet, there is still hope !
I have some good news for you : If you follow the right plan, there’s a good chance you still get your ex back. ( by ex I mean your boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife) , and fix your broken relationship.
This article has 3 CRUCIAL parts to recover your relationship :
Part 1 : the ‘cancer’ in your rleationship needs to be cured.
Part 2: want your ex-back? don’t EVER do these things…
Part 3 : The ‘ How to get your ex back ‘ plan
We know you probably want to jump right to part 3, but don’t.
If you truly want to recover your relationship, be patient, and read all 3 parts of this article.
Lets start with part 1.
Part 1: Cure The ‘Cancer’ in Your Relationship –
It doesn’t matter how awesome your relationship was, something wasn’t right.
Before you do anything to try and fix your relationship, you must understand what was the problem that caused the breakup.
What was it ? be honest with yourself.
Was it jealousy ? either yours or your exs’ ? Did one of you cheat the other ? Did your ex says he/she doesn’t love you anymore?
Whatever the reason is, you need to acknowledge it, and then think about a solution.
If you will get back together just because, odds are you will break-up again, because the ‘cancer’ is still there, you must find a cure before you continue.
NOTE : Every problem has a solution, even if your ex says he/she ‘doesn’t love you anymore’, the solution is making your ex falling in love with you all over again…
After you understood what the problem is and how you can and will fix it, you can continue reading.
Next, lets discuss some FATAL mistakes you must avoid if you want your ex-back.
Part 2: How You WON’T Get Your Ex-Back – 3 Post Breakup Mistakes To Avoid –
There are a few ‘post-breakup’ mistakes that you just need to avoid. They are counter-intuitive, which means you need to act against your instincts on these ones.
Breakup Mistake #1 : STOP ! Don’t contact your ex yet !
It’s hard, I know, I have been there. But you must be strong, think long-term.
You need to let your ex think too, after you have done your thinking. Don’t worry I promise you your EX misses you too and thinks about you right now.
There are 2 main reasons you don’t want to contact your EX yet :
- You want to give your ex some time to think about the whole thing.
- You want to make him/her miss you.
I know you want your relationship fixed as soon as possible, but you must be patient.
Being needy won’t help you get your ex-back, it might actually decrease your chances of getting back together.
I recommend to give your ex 2-3 days before you contact him, and when you do, say you want to meet and talk, don’t talk over the phone/ facebook / text.
Seeing you will have a bigger impact on your ex.
If you have already contacted your ex, don’t worry, just DON’T contact him/her again until you fully read this article and have your plan ready.
Breakup Mistake #2 : Don’t Announce Your Breakup To The World !
These horrible facebook statuses must be avoided at all cost, and don’t tweet about how big of an asshole your ex is either.
Besides, you should keep that ‘dirty laundry’ with yourself, if you absolutely must tell someone, tell your family or closest friends.
But think about it – when you announce your breakup publicly, it makes getting back together HARDER.
Your ex won’t want to deal with all the ” oh I thought you guys broke-up ? ” comments, and I bet you won’t either.
Breakup Mistake #3 : Trying to make your ex jealous –
If you want to show your ex you’re mature, avoid doing that.
Don’t tag yourself holding/hugging/kissing another persons to make your ex feel jealous, it does the opposite.
It will just push your ex further away, because he/she might think you moved on and even if he thought about getting back with you, this might change his/hers mind.
Be mature, even if your ex does these things, it’s actually a good sign, he’s trying to show you he/she is over you, which is obviously not true.
Now that you understand what to avoid and already know what caused your breakup, it’s time to get to work.
Part 3 :Creating The ‘ How To Get Your Ex Back ‘ Plan –
Here’s something you probably forgot : you know how to get your ex back better than anyone else does.
You just need a little guidance because odds are you are not thinking straight right now, and feeling mixed emotions.
That’s exactly the reason you need a detailed plan if you want to get your ex back to you.
The Plan – Getting Back Together :
1.Set a Date With Your Ex : Call your ex, and tell him you need to talk to him/her. DON’T say more than that over the phone, the only purpsse of the phone call is to get him/her to meet with you.
2. The Talk –
Tell your ex everything you feel, tell him about the ‘cancer’ in your relationship, and how you can cure it, together!
Tell him you love him/her, and your relationship with him/her is extremely important to you, and how you want to work things out between you guys.
After you made your intentions clear, see your exs’ reaction.
Ask him/her for their opinion about re-building your relationships, and what he / she thinks needs to be changed.
From here, there are 2 possible scenarios –
1.Your Ex wants to work things out, and rebuild your relationship – that’s amazing ! I wish you guys the best and make sure you e-mail me your wedding invitations.
2. Your Ex Doesn’t Want To Get Back Together – time for you to re-think your relationship again.
If everything you have done didn’t help, and your ex doesn’t want to get back together, are you sure you want to be with him/her?
There’s not right or wrong here. It’s up to you.
Sometimes its time to let it go, and sometime, love is worth fighting for, but the important thing is that YOU DECIDE.
If you decide to keep fighting and get your ex back, we have plenty more useful advice on how to get your ex back, dont give-up!
And if you decide to move on, that’s great too, there are plenty of people in this world and you can definitely find someone who can appreciate you and love you.
Whatever your choice is, I wish you the best of luck.
Feel free to contact me through the “contact us” button if you need any relationship advice, i’ll be more than glad to help.
Last thing – please share this article and help others fix their relationships as well, its important to spread the love in this world !